Bride Guide to Sanity

By Jill Renee, President of, a leading authority on diamonds, fine jewelry, and engagement rings. Danforth Diamond provides wisdom and advice to help you choose the right ring at the right price. Visit or call 877.404.RING

Getting engaged comes with rights. For example, as a soon-to-be bride, you have the right to plan your wedding according to your own vision. As long as a particular feature fits into the budget, it’s fair game. The danger is that you might immerse yourself so deeply in the details that you start obsessing about everything. Ultimately, the obsession leads to stress and frustration which can siphon the fun out of the planning process.

Today, we’ll help you maintain your sanity by providing some useful advice to follow during your engagement. You’ll find the following tips have a common theme: loosening your grip on the reins.

Give Your Bridesmaids Flexibility

You might be tempted to plan every last detail of your bridesmaids’ outfits, especially if doing so will make you look better at the altar. But, that can cause potential problems. First, even though your bridesmaids expect to wear the dress that you select for them, they’ll want flexibility with their shoes, makeup, and hair. It may be your right as a bride-to-be to demand their compliance, but they won’t like it. Second, the more details you nitpick, the more likely you’ll lose your perspective.

Let Others Handle The Rehearsal Dinner

Traditionally, the responsibility of organizing the rehearsal dinner has fallen on others’ shoulders. In most cases, you won’t be involved (other than showing up and enjoying the attention, of course). What’s more, everyone who attends understands that you played no part in putting it together. That means the style, decor, food, and other features won’t be associated with your tastes.

The parents of the groom will often take the reins in arranging the rehearsal dinner. If they ask for your advice, provide it. Otherwise, sit back and let them handle the details. It’s one less thing for you to worry about.

Plan Your Wedding Dress Around Your Normal Weight

Most of us can afford to shed one or two extra pounds. But, launching a “do or die” weight loss regimen for the sole purpose of squeezing into your wedding gown is a mistake. It takes a lot out of you. Crash diets can be physically and emotionally exhausting. While you may look good standing at the altar, there’s also a chance you’ll be hungry, cranky, and unable to enjoy yourself. Not savoring your big day would be a shame.

Giving Up Control And Relaxing

You want everything to be perfect, of course. And often, it seems like the only way to get things done is to do it yourself. But, there lies the road to pre-wedding insanity. Do yourself (and everyone else) a favor. Loosen your grip on the wedding planning reins and let yourself enjoy your engagement. You’ll feel more relaxed and happier around the people you love. And in the end, that might prove more enjoyable than a “perfect” wedding day.

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