He’s on bended knee before you and the stars in the night sky are sparkling, and he’s giving you his beautiful interpretation of “I want to spend the rest of my life with you,” and everything is phenomenal and romantic . . .
And then he opens the pretty little box with the most exquisite diamond engagement ring you’ve ever seen, and you can’t think of one reason why you wouldn’t say yes to his wedding proposal.
Here’s a thought: whether you’ve already said yes, or you think your relationship is moving toward a wedding proposal, before you glide down that aisle toward nuptial bliss, ask yourself these questions from iVillage’s “Is He the One?” article written by Susan Swimmer. It can’t hurt to take an objective look at your relationship before you decide to make such a huge life change, right? This insightful article can help reaffirm that you’ve found what you’ve been looking for, or help you come to the conclusion that it may be time to move on.
Is He the One?
Ten Questions to Ask Yourself
Want to know whether your current Mr. Right could be your mate for life? In this excerpt from Is He the One? 101 Questions That Will Lead You to the Truth, Whatever That Is, author Susan Swimmer says the honest answers to a few key questions could help you find out. Here are 10 to get you started:
1. Does he think he’s a lucky guy? You’d like to think that he is a man who understands that life is made up of part luck and part hard work, and that both elements will affect him at some point. A man who thinks himself lucky in any way is someone who radiates gratitude, which in turn creates an aura of joyousness. And that’s all good. But what really matters is that, at the very least, he is a man who feels wildly fortunate to have you in his life, because a guy who feels that way will make sure you know you’re adored. And how lucky is that?
2. Are his little faults things you can handle? Everyone is bugged by something. Does he drink directly from the carton? Hang sweaty clothes on the bathroom door? Stockpile old newspapers? Say no more. Ladies, there will always be habits that could drive you batty enough to head for the door, if you let them. But accepting someone, little faults and all, is part of love. You’ve got to think big picture here: Don’t let his habit of rattling ice in a glass cloud your vision of a man who’s caring, respectful, honest and loving. And that’s to say nothing of the fact that you crack your knuckles and leave half-empty coffee cups all over the house.
Read more of “Is He the One?” at iVillage.com.