Is your man afraid of popping the question? Or is he oblivious to the idea of getting married? How do you get him to propose?
It seems that sometimes men “just don’t get it”. The relationship is fantastic. You are getting along, having fun and enjoying each other’s company, why rock the boat? Deeper commitment, lasting love and the thought of a lifetime together is something most men just don’t think about and when they do, it scares them to death!
In the book “Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others,” by John Molloy, the author states that the only way to get a man to propose is to bring the subject up with him. Timing is crucial in that the optimal time for talking about marriage is 12 to 24 months into a relationship. You must not beat around the bush or drop subtle hints because that usually doesn’t work. A straight forward approach is what is recommended.
Don’t be put off if your man doesn’t respond positively to your suggestion at first. He may need time to think about the prospect for awhile, after all, this is probably the FIRST time he has actually thought about it!
Here are some tips:
1. Make him aware of your interest in a lifetime commitment. Drop subtle hints from time to time, such as, ‘We’d make a great team’ or ‘I can’t imagine my future without you,’ rather than incessantly bombarding him with demands about marriage.
2. Point out your shared interests, values and common goals. Open his eyes so he’ll realize that you’re the one for him.
3. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Show him what a great lifetime partner you could be through thoughtful actions, sincerity, kindness and other appealing traits.
4. Remind him of several happily married couples who are mutual friends of yours, pointing out how much you have in common with them and how successful their marriages are.
If after a certain amount of time it becomes apparent that he is NEVER going to commit, it is probably time to move on. Although, this is not the outcome most women want, some men need to experience life without that special someone in order to realize marriage is the answer.
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